Re: asking women out.
So, I post this question mainly to women, as it's starting to become rather ridiculous. I've become a little less reticent in asking women out over the past year but the increase in tries has not also shown an increase in successes. Mostly I contribute this to women just not wanting to date me in general, but a certain trend has arisen that is particularly frustrating.
So, if I do manage to get a girl to at least entertain the idea of hanging out with me, somehow between the initial "sure" and determining what to do they will back out. It's only happened after they've recommended going out for drinks as what they would like to do. Now, let it be said that I have literally no issues going out to a bar or something like that and hanging out with a girl. These are never my number one choices, but I understand why the girls decided to and I've never nixed the idea. The problem lies in the fact that I don't drink, and if they don't find out beforehand they'll find out at the bar. I imagine that drinking in front of someone who doesn't drink in a one on one situation (especially if you don't know the person very well) might be a little disconcerting. Perhaps they feel like I'm judging them even though that's not the case. Needless to say, if they find out beforehand they back out even if I provide an alternative date, and if they find out at the bar they find reasons to leave early.
If this had not happened to me 8 times in the past year or so I would dismiss it as coincidence, but it just keeps happening and it makes me wonder why it's difficult for these women to get passed or understand.
My most recent girlfriend drank on occasion and smoked weed around me constantly even though I didn't smoke and it never really seemed to bother her. Is she the weird one or have I just had the most unlucky streak of choices ever?
So, long story short, are you less likely to date a guy who doesn't drink/smoke if you do or does it make you at all apprehensive when deciding whether or not to?