losing a parent unapp. 12 replies, 9806 views

6/29/2005 11:34:00 PM
so my mom died in february...after four long months of extensive muscle rehab...will the pain ever go away? will it ever not hurt to think about her? she was my best friend. at times i hated her more than anything, but truly, i loved her with all my heart.
6/29/2005 11:37:00 PM
That sucks.
I've never really had any family members die.
6/29/2005 11:39:00 PM
i think yer right. my mom had a stroke in october. was in a coma for a month. tried to cope with being paralyzed on the right side of her body, not being able to speak...for four months she was in rehab. she went into surgery the week before she was due to come home...and never came out. it hurt so bad sitting at the end of her bed when she stopped breathing. she was really my best friend.
6/29/2005 11:41:00 PM
The sad truth is that your life will never be the same. I found that you always seem to miss them around the holidays the most. I lost my dad in 2001 so I'm over it but that doesn't mean I don't miss him. He was one of the greatest people I ever knew. I also found that being angry about it doesn't help. They wouldn't have wanted you to be angry about it. Well... that's just me.
6/29/2005 11:44:00 PM
Originally posted by:Adams

That sucks.
I've never really had any family members die.

6/29/2005 11:49:00 PM
yeah. i found out she was going to die on valentines day. i started a new job and got a new apartment that day too. fuck. ahhh. you guys helped a lot. bc i was feeling angry. really angry...and its true. anger helps nothing, i think im gonna try and get some sleep. thanks. a million.
6/29/2005 11:50:00 PM
I lost my dad when i was 9.. it took me a few years.. i guess i would say i got over it at like 15.. i still think about it.. and it hurts somtimes but for the most part ive moved on
6/29/2005 11:50:00 PM
You may see her when you dream. She could tell you things that will answer questions you might have.

(I hope that didn't make me sound like a nut.)
6/29/2005 11:54:00 PM
don't be angry. there are certain things that cannot be helped. please, keep your chin up and enjoy what you have.
6/29/2005 11:56:00 PM
yeah. she gave me 19 wonderful years. and ill never forget them.
6/29/2005 11:59:00 PM
my uncle died in 1997. i was so close to him, i looked at as a father. he was just a great person and really genuine but he got lung cancer and passed away. i greived for a few months but as harsh as it is, life goes on and its true... they wouldn't have wanted you to be upset and depressed forever. you will get through it though, some people greive longer than others.
miss laura
6/30/2005 12:28:00 AM
my dad died just over a week before i left for college almost 3 years ago.. and seriously i think about him every single day.

coming from someone talking to you 3 whole years after the hardest day of her entire life, my advice is to take all the time in the world to grieve. no one can tell you what's an "appropriate" amount of time to mourn any loss, ESPECIALLY the loss of one of the people who brought you into this world. hell, that day happened for me 3 years ago and i still cry about it (there go the waterworks, actually), i still go over the details of that day in my head, i still beat myself up for not saying goodbye, and to this day, i'd still give everything i had up, i'd literally sell my soul to the devil himself to have my father back.

good luck, stay strong.
miss laura
6/30/2005 12:48:00 AM
actually, yeah, i forgot to mention that.. for a little while (when i was stuck in pittsburgh at school without a car and the memory still fresh in my mind), i would take a notebook that i wasn't using for class and sit outside (gorgeous campus, gorgeous autumn weather) and just write whatever came to my head.

it was never fluid or logical, more often then not it was just sentences at random.. but having that as an outlet was great.

don't sit there and try to write a story or a poem (unless that's your thing.. not mine at all). just write whatever comes to you. you'd be surprised at just what kind of conduit a pen and paper can be for extracting emotional poisons.