If your husband, wife, spouse cheated on you... 64 replies, 33368 views

Rina.
10/24/2010 5:39:00 PM
...what would you do? Would you "work on it," or kick them to the curb?
We were watching Cheaters last night, and we were having this discussion. It was funny.
Pretty much, I would kick their ass out. I don't have time for that petty shit. And, just to be a vengeful bitch, I would make sure I started sleeping with one of his friends or someone he didnt like.
F unfaithful people.

Also,


Jess.
10/24/2010 5:41:00 PM
I'd break up with them.

I wouldn't sleep with friends or anything petty like that, there's no point in stooping to that level. Break up with them and move on.
Rina.
10/24/2010 5:45:00 PM
Originally posted by: Jess.

I'd break up with them.

I wouldn't sleep with friends or anything petty like that, there's no point in stooping to that level. Break up with them and move on.

I think differently now about stuff though. I dont necessarily think of it as stooping to a low level. It would be easier in the "closure" process, plus I like sex. Win-Win.

I am a huge slore.
Iron Chef Gein
10/24/2010 5:47:00 PM
Working on it wouldn't even cross my mind.
WREN
10/24/2010 5:48:00 PM
I always have told myself that I learned from my past experiences with a cheating ex. I have it in my head that if it were to ever happen again there would be no way that I'd stick around to find out how much worse it can get. Now that I'm married and have been in the longest and easily most serious relationship I've ever been in, I don't know exactly what I'd do.

I think it really comes down to alot of circumstances. Like it was it someone that knows me personally? Is the relationship rocky already? Was it truly a one time fling just for sex or was it something much more? Shit like that.

I have also thought about how I would deal with the person that she cheated on me with. If it was a friend or atleast an acquaintance that knew me personally, I'd probably spend the night in jail and have myself a nice assault charge on my record. If it was someone that was completely left in the dark about the me and the relationship, well I can't really blame that person then. But knowing me, although I'd like to take the high road there, I'd probably end up beating the shit out of him anyway.
InTheButtLikeWhat
10/24/2010 5:53:00 PM
i have some doubts about monogamy and my boyfriend and i have talked about this, and have even tried the open relationship thing. we decided it wasn't for us but agreed that sometimes things "just happen". that's reality for most people and while we're not going out and seeking other people, if some hottie came onto him i wouldn't blame him for getting a piece. so in some sense, he can't really cheat on me because of the nature of our relationship. however, if he was being deceitful and doing things behind my back or if i found out he had unprotected sex he'd be packing his bags.
Davey.
10/24/2010 6:06:00 PM
If my girlfriend cheated on me I would immediately book a flight for inthebuttlikewhat to land directly on my pen15
sherman
10/24/2010 6:15:00 PM
Originally posted by: Jess.

I'd break up with them.

I wouldn't sleep with friends or anything petty like that, there's no point in stooping to that level. Break up with them and move on.

Dianana
10/24/2010 6:25:00 PM
Call me weak, but I just have no idea what I'd do in that situation. All I know is that my heart would be broken and I don't know how I could trust him again.
Thank lucifer I married a good man.
Tim E. Husk
10/24/2010 6:29:00 PM
done forever in almost any circumstance.

if the cheating involved sex, it would be a yes even if we had been married for 30 years and i found out that the infidelity happened 20 years ago.
InTheButtLikeWhat
10/24/2010 6:30:00 PM
Originally posted by: Dianana

Call me weak, but I just have no idea what I'd do in that situation. All I know is that my heart would be broken and I don't know how I could trust him again.
Thank lucifer I married a good man.

not weak. reasonable.
Bashar al-Acab
10/24/2010 6:31:00 PM
i would ask them to invite me next time
Tim E. Husk
10/24/2010 6:33:00 PM
Originally posted by: InTheButtLikeWhat

Originally posted by: Dianana

Call me weak, but I just have no idea what I'd do in that situation. All I know is that my heart would be broken and I don't know how I could trust him again.
Thank lucifer I married a good man.

not weak. reasonable.

everyone has their own thing, and that's all right. do you think it's unreasonable to have an answer?
Rina.
10/24/2010 6:41:00 PM
Originally posted by: InTheButtLikeWhat

however, if he was being deceitful and doing things behind my back or if i found out he had unprotected sex he'd be packing his bags.

This is another thing. Even if there was no sex going on, I find it totally inappropriate for a spouse to be out/making plans/going places with someone else and not telling about it.
Not cool.
AtWarWithAmeliaLOL
10/24/2010 6:43:00 PM
Originally posted by: WREN

I think it really comes down to alot of circumstances. Like it was it someone that knows me personally? Is the relationship rocky already? Was it truly a one time fling just for sex or was it something much more? Shit like that.


Pretty much this. Breaking up with someone you love over a little fling would be silly. Just because someone cheats doesn't mean they don't love you. It'd be different if it was an affair though.
WREN
10/24/2010 6:46:00 PM
I wouldn't call it silly breaking up over a fling. It all depends on how you can deal with it. Alot of trust issues arise from even something small as just kissing someone else once. Regardless of how sincere they are with telling you that it was only one time and will never happen again, most people will always question that in the back of their mind...even if it turns out to be 100% true.

If one of my happily married friends told me right this second that they were leaving their spouse because they slept with someone else and said it was the worst mistake of their life, I wouldn't necessarily blame them for not sticking around. But on the flipside, I wouldn't condemn them either for trying to make it work.
Tim E. Husk
10/24/2010 6:46:00 PM
i love these threads, because everyone seems to think that their reaction is the sensible one. it's like the show wife-swap, where people break down and cry because another family has different values and lives a different way.
InTheButtLikeWhat
10/24/2010 6:55:00 PM
Originally posted by: adam.

Originally posted by: InTheButtLikeWhat

Originally posted by: Dianana

Call me weak, but I just have no idea what I'd do in that situation. All I know is that my heart would be broken and I don't know how I could trust him again.
Thank lucifer I married a good man.

not weak. reasonable.

everyone has their own thing, and that's all right. do you think it's unreasonable to have an answer?

i wouldn't just come out and say this (because it's your life and who am i to judge?) but since you're asking i do consider your answer unreasonable. saying "this is how it is and i wouldn't consider anything else under any circumstances" is just militant. it's extreme and i think we should be more forgiving of the people we love and not hold them to such high expectations. i think expecting one person to fulfill all of our needs and be completely fulfilled by us for our whole lives is absurd. certainly we all need boundaries and should enforce them but i do consider yours to be unreasonable.
Tim E. Husk
10/24/2010 7:12:00 PM
fair enough.

i have to say that i would no longer love (in the same way) or trust my wife if she slept with another man, and that i do not believe one can simply rebuild trust to any reasonable level after something like that.

anything less is, in my eyes, tantamount to saying "it's ok if you cheat on me, i'll forgive you no matter what." sure, you might be hurt, but the acceptance is there before the deed.

like i said though, opinions on things like this don't matter outside anyone's own relationship. it would be a boring world if everyone felt -or even worse, had to feel- the same way about personal relationship and social organization.
Tim E. Husk
10/24/2010 7:14:00 PM
in fact, i think that a lot of people would be happier if they could just let go of the social conditioning that more or less requires monogamy. it's right for me, but that doesn't mean it's right for everyone.
Davey.
10/24/2010 7:16:00 PM
I agree with adam.
brian,
10/24/2010 7:32:00 PM
i'd want to watch.
mandakatzz(deleted)
10/24/2010 7:48:00 PM
No excuse for cheating, when your with someone you should be with them and no one else, call me old fashion but that's how I feel unless otherwise spoken about in the relationship with each other.

As far as if I found out dude I was with cheating on me on for 3months, lying to me about where he was going on the weekends and then find out this chic wasnt the first he cheated on me with, he would be out the door in my life.

Some people just cheat over and over, some just a one time thing, drugs and alcohol always have a play in it too, unhappiness/fighting with spouse and so many circumstances can lead to cheating. Shit happens but personally I have no tolerance for it. Do onto others as you want done onto yourself.
Elliot
10/24/2010 8:21:00 PM
well if my wife cheated on me i would kill that bitch but if my spouse cheated on me i would work it out...
firebikesmullets
10/24/2010 9:28:00 PM
cheating = immediate grounds for dismissal
firebikesmullets
10/24/2010 9:29:00 PM
.....or dick missile.