Attn: Married People 47 replies, 23372 views

viva hate
11/18/2010 2:22:00 PM
Why did you get married? Do you regret it? Serious questions.

And, before anyone goes "duhhh cause we love each other" or whatever, I know of a couple who married for insurance reasons. I also know people who have gotten married because they felt obligated, or because of a pregnancy, or other stupid reasons.
$teve grove
11/18/2010 2:24:00 PM
really?
Pollcat
11/18/2010 2:26:00 PM
taxes
Andrea
11/18/2010 2:27:00 PM
Love being married. Love my husband, love our relationship. It's commitment, not just to each other, but to our relationship. Some people argue that you can have that without being married, ok fine, whatever. But for me, married life is good.
Andrea
11/18/2010 2:28:00 PM
OK, I'm pretty gay for taking this seriously, aren't I?
Dianana
11/18/2010 2:28:00 PM
lol@the people you know.

We got married because we love each other. sike

Originally posted by: Pollcat

taxes

viva hate
11/18/2010 2:32:00 PM
Hey I said "know of", not that we're bffs. I'm sure most people know some asshole they went to school with that probably got married because the chick got knocked up. And the person who did it for insurance had other reasons involving her dying father or something.

I guess I should have also asked what made you people realize you should get married. I guess I've just never placed much importance on it, so I'm curious as to married people's perspectives. Not everyone sees it as an ultimate goal in a relationship...?
XcadmusX
11/18/2010 2:32:00 PM
Everything was golden until I got married. Then... not so much. There are things I miss but way more that I don't. Married life isn't for everyone, and if BOTH parties aren't putting the effort in, then it's doomed. I got married because I thought we were good, we both wanted to do it and honestly, the tax break was good. I definitely think we could have done without the marriage and been fine, though. We're really good with each other now, the friendship is great. There's a fucked up pressure that comes with being married, expectations you put on yourselves without being aware of it and that's what tends to mess things up.
pahulkster
11/18/2010 2:36:00 PM
Seen too many guys in my family and elsewhere get completely fucked over from divorces for me to want to get married. Things could be great for twenty-five years, but you can still lose everything you've ever worked for pretty easily.
Dianana
11/18/2010 2:42:00 PM
I think the process of getting married is expensive and dumb and we had a relatively inexpensive wedding. My last name is hyphenated because there's no reason for me to give up my identity and neither of us expected our relationship to change due to marriage (only idiots think getting married will make a relationship better or keep their significant other locked down). So not everyone who gets married sees it as some ultimate goal either.

As cynical as all of that sounds, guess what, we got married for the right reasons. I don't know what I would do without Wren and my wedding was one of the best days of my life, making out with him on June 29th 2004 is a close 2nd.
mandakatzz(deleted)
11/18/2010 2:48:00 PM
My friends got married so she could get US citizenship and he could get british citizenship, I think they got it annulled after a couple of months, they actually had some people thinking it was true which was funny cause at the time him and I were seeing each other.

My grandmothers brother and his girlfriend have been together for 43years, never married, they both are stinkin rich in there own right. I asked her why they never married and she said cause they didnt feel it was important. I didnt dig any deeper.

My mom is 46 my stepdad is 35. They married when he was 24 and she was 35, I was 16. 1st time my mom had ever been married. They are going through a seperation right now.

Raised by a single mother and seeing how unhappy she was in her marriage, I have absolutely no interest in marriage.

I was engaged once, real talk, dress bought, caterer paid and so on....he cheated on me in my parents basement with the head of the record label his band was on, 2 years down the drain. On the flipside they are still together, married with 2 lil boys and reside in some philly suburb. I'm glad that it worked out, he was my first love and I would never wish any ill on him. I was also 20 and moved to queens to be with him, too young to be married for sure.
kendraaa
11/18/2010 2:51:00 PM
Originally posted by: mandakatzz
I was engaged once, real talk, dress bought, caterer paid and so on....he cheated on me in my parents basement with the head of the record label his band was on, 2 years down the drain. On the flipside they are still together, married with 2 lil boys and reside in some philly suburb. I'm glad that it worked out, he was my first love and I would never wish any ill on him. I was also 20 and moved to queens to be with him, too young to be married for sure.

this was me. engaged at 19. waaaaaaaaaaaay too friggin young. good thing I realized it before I went through with it. I still think I'm too young at 25 now, haha.
tom.
11/18/2010 2:58:00 PM
i recommend everyone here have a few long talks with couples happily married for 30+ years. its becoming more and more rare. makes me sad.
Dan.
11/18/2010 3:04:00 PM
Originally posted by: tom.

i recommend everyone here have a few long talks with couples happily married for 30+ years. its becoming more and more rare. makes me sad.

I want that.
Andrea
11/18/2010 3:06:00 PM
Originally posted by: tom.

i recommend everyone here have a few long talks with couples happily married for 30+ years. its becoming more and more rare. makes me sad.

I agree. If you ask people who have been married for that long, they'll tell you that it probably wasn't all good all the time. But I'm sure most of them will agree that they're glad they stuck with it and that they're happier and stronger now. I think people give up on things too easily, especially relationships. It's easier to just walk away. A marriage is a commitment that you're not going to walk away, even when it sucks.
RIP DOUG LEONARD
11/18/2010 3:07:00 PM
Yodel Toast
11/18/2010 3:08:00 PM
Originally posted by: tom.

i recommend everyone here have a few long talks with couples happily married for 30+ years. its becoming more and more rare. makes me sad.

Truth.
mandakatzz(deleted)
11/18/2010 3:09:00 PM
Originally posted by: tom.

i recommend everyone here have a few long talks with couples happily married for 30+ years. its becoming more and more rare. makes me sad.

yeah I wish I knew some, besides my aloof great uncle and his girlfriend who I see once every 3 or 5 years
JonnyxEdge
11/18/2010 3:13:00 PM
Originally posted by: Andrea

Love being married. Love my wife, love our relationship. It's commitment, not just to each other, but to our relationship. Some people argue that you can have that without being married, ok fine, whatever. But for me, married life is good.

couldn't have said it better
mandakatzz(deleted)
11/18/2010 3:13:00 PM
Originally posted by: kendraaa

Originally posted by: mandakatzz
I was engaged once, real talk, dress bought, caterer paid and so on....he cheated on me in my parents basement with the head of the record label his band was on, 2 years down the drain. On the flipside they are still together, married with 2 lil boys and reside in some philly suburb. I'm glad that it worked out, he was my first love and I would never wish any ill on him. I was also 20 and moved to queens to be with him, too young to be married for sure.

this was me. engaged at 19. waaaaaaaaaaaay too friggin young. good thing I realized it before I went through with it. I still think I'm too young at 25 now, haha.

yeah I was wayyyy to young, but I truthfully loved him. Her on the other hand before I knew what was goin on with them she was wayyy to super nice to me, I should of known, she looked like a man and apparently screwed alot of people in philly out of money. She was not a nice person so im still stumped on what he saw in her besides her being hardline sxe.
k-diddy
11/18/2010 3:16:00 PM
Originally posted by: Dianana

I think the process of getting married is expensive and dumb and we had a relatively inexpensive wedding. My last name is hyphenated because there's no reason for me to give up my identity and neither of us expected our relationship to change due to marriage (only idiots think getting married will make a relationship better or keep their significant other locked down). So not everyone who gets married sees it as some ultimate goal either.

As cynical as all of that sounds, guess what, we got married for the right reasons. I don't know what I would do without Wren and my wedding was one of the best days of my life, making out with him on June 29th 2004 is a close 2nd.


hey hey hey!!! i made out with him on that date too!! damn cheating ass wren!!
Pollcat
11/18/2010 3:23:00 PM
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Originally posted by: Buckbeak

We got married to show a true, honest commitment to each other. To pledge that no matter what, through thick and thin, we'll be there for each other. We got married because we're best friends and we will work together to make each other a better person. People will say you can do all of that outside of marriage, which you could, but to us it was something important to do. Plus, we both wanted to be married before we had a child.

Keep in mind, the two of us are pretty old school.

don't lie to everyone.
Dianana
11/18/2010 3:25:00 PM
Originally posted by: Andrea

Originally posted by: tom.

i recommend everyone here have a few long talks with couples happily married for 30+ years. its becoming more and more rare. makes me sad.

I agree. If you ask people who have been married for that long, they'll tell you that it probably wasn't all good all the time. But I'm sure most of them will agree that they're glad they stuck with it and that they're happier and stronger now. I think people give up on things too easily, especially relationships. It's easier to just walk away. A marriage is a commitment that you're not going to walk away, even when it sucks.

My great Aunt Frances (who is the most attractive 76 year old woman I've ever seen) and my Uncle Ed were such a loving couple, we celebrated their 50th anniversary right before he died. I mentioned what I did about her good looks because they kept each other young because they were best homies and had a great time together. I think the sadness aged her a little but she still looks good. She started dating recently and she has her glow back that I haven't seen for 5 years.
k-diddy
11/18/2010 3:26:00 PM
your guys weddding was awsome..you guys should definitly be the definition of marriage you complete each other
RIP DOUG LEONARD
11/18/2010 3:36:00 PM
Marriage means nothing to me. I believe for you to absolutely care about someone there is no need for paperwork to be involved to make it official. Also makes you feel forced. I got married because I didn't give a fuck either way about it, it meant something to her though. My life has not changed at all. If I decided to bang a cheerleader, it will be so.
sidney
11/18/2010 3:37:00 PM
Originally posted by: Yodel Toast

Originally posted by: tom.

i recommend everyone here have a few long talks with couples happily married for 30+ years. its becoming more and more rare. makes me sad.

Truth.