ponder this if you will.... 43 replies, 34398 views

Gatsby
2/3/2011 2:39:00 PM
I want to preface this by saying that unless you are married or are in a serious commited relationship, it may be hard to answer the qestion to the scenario however...

I have a friend who's coworker is married to a tranny. The whole time they dated it was a male/female relationship. Shortly (like a year) after they were married her husband told her that all his life he felt like he was missing something and he felt like he should be a woman. Shortly after that he started hormone therapy and recently had surgery to give him breasts and a vagina. She still stayed with him even though she wasn't attracted to women before, stating that she loves "him" regardless of how he looks now.

Would you be able to do this?

Brett Weir
2/3/2011 2:40:00 PM
No, but if they are able to, word up.
Dianana
2/3/2011 2:40:00 PM
If Wren got a vagina, I'd eat it.
Gatsby
2/3/2011 2:40:00 PM
personally I think I would feel jipped. I married a man. I want to be married to a man, regardless of being bi. I think I would still stay with him though, but it would be weird for a while.
Jim McGuire
2/3/2011 2:41:00 PM
ATTN: Matt Green
Gatsby
2/3/2011 2:42:00 PM
Originally posted by: Jim McGuire

ATTN: Matt Green

haha I was going to post that in the title.
Jess.
2/3/2011 2:42:00 PM
No. I'm not sexually attracted to women. I would support them and their decision as a friend and a loved one and always keep them in my life, but I would get a divorce and find a man.

Of course, you'd have to be aware that there was some gender confusion if you are that close with someone. It couldn't have been out of the blue.
cbrickhouse
2/3/2011 2:42:00 PM
Originally posted by: Dianana

If Wren got a vagina, I'd eat it.

lmao
xAJDELAWAREx
2/3/2011 2:43:00 PM
If my wife did that, the sexual portion of our relationship would surely end, and just the mental shit that would probably spin me thorugh would drive me insane...so much shame and embarassment. At the same time, you love the person not the gender, so yeah.
sherman
2/3/2011 2:46:00 PM
Originally posted by: Jess.

No. I would support them and their decision as a friend and a loved one and always keep them in my life, but I would get a divorce and find a man.


Sarcastic Existence
2/3/2011 2:47:00 PM
Couldn't deal. It would be hard, but I'd have to move on.
Yodel Toast
2/3/2011 2:48:00 PM
I think I would be okay with it if I loved the guy enough to marry him, I'd be happy with any decision he made that would make him feel comfortable with his true self.

that being said, if he got rid of his penis, I would probably ask him to wear a strap on every once in awhile.
Gatsby
2/3/2011 2:48:00 PM
Originally posted by: xAJexDELAWAREx

If my wife did that, the sexual portion of our relationship would surely end, and just the mental shit that would probably spin me thorugh would drive me insane...so much shame and embarassment. At the same time, you love the person not the gender, so yeah.

this was my thoughts. As selfish as it may be, there are stereotypes that come with being in a gay relationship that BOTH would end up going through I'm sure at one point or another. Having to go through that when you started in a heterosexual relationship i'm sure would be annoying/upsetting/confusing, etc.
XWHISKEYX
2/3/2011 2:49:00 PM
Fuck no, i would jump ship like it was on fire. Change who you are = becoming someone other than who I got into a relationship with.

Diannas response is gold.
WREN
2/3/2011 3:01:00 PM
Difficult answer really.

I mean part of me feels exactly the way Whiskey does. Not the whole "fuck no" portion but I married the person you are right now. If after a few years she decided that she wanted to be someone else, I would have a problem with that. It's different but I'd liken it to if she all of a sudden became a preachy born again Christian. Getting a gender change definitely will have its effects on your personality and what not.

Now on the flipside, I'm so in love with Dianna it's hard to not want to be with her.

If there was some freak accident that caused her to in ways become man-like, I wouldn't leave. But if she wanted to change her whole identity, I don't know 100% that I could stay around. I'd like to think my love for her is stronger than that but this is a pretty big deal.

Whether I stay or go, I wouldn't want to be the reason to stop her from doing something like this. If someone really feels they were born the wrong gender and want to be different, who am I to stop them? Is it a mental disorder? Probably. But there is no "cure" for this and it will only lead to deep depression or worse if the procedures are not done.

This is a pretty odd thing to think about especially being married.
XWHISKEYX
2/3/2011 3:08:00 PM
Also, Im wondering how the change would effect the persons sexual appetite? If a dude starts wearing lipstick and heels, how long til he's sucking dick? Too many variables for me.
Gatsby
2/3/2011 3:11:00 PM
there were a few questions swirling the air after I was told about this.

Does this make his wife a lesbian, even though she typically doesn't like women?

Do they share clothes?

Will he start liking men?

Did he like men to begin with?

how can she slap?
InTheButtLikeWhat
2/3/2011 3:15:00 PM
i think it's strange to know nothing about this before the marriage. if the husband has felt this way his/her whole life, doesn't the wife deserve to know about it BEFORE they make a life-long commitment?
Gatsby
2/3/2011 3:21:00 PM
I don't know if she knew nothing about it before hand. I don't know them personally.
cbrickhouse
2/3/2011 3:21:00 PM
she had to have some sort of suspicions.
sidney
2/3/2011 3:23:00 PM
Originally posted by: XWHISKEYX

Fuck no, i would jump ship like it was on fire. Change who you are = becoming someone other than who I got into a relationship with.

Captain Ahab
2/3/2011 3:24:00 PM
"hey. . .ummmmm. . . .would you mind, maybe, ummm fucking ME tonight and calling susan?"
InTheButtLikeWhat
2/3/2011 3:25:00 PM
because people never change in other ways over the course of 50 years
InTheButtLikeWhat
2/3/2011 3:25:00 PM
Originally posted by: Captain Ahab

"hey. . .ummmmm. . . .would you mind, maybe, ummm fucking ME tonight and calling susan?"


LOL
Brett Weir
2/3/2011 3:28:00 PM
Originally posted by: InTheButtLikeWhat

because people never change in other ways over the course of 50 years

Thinking the same thing. They call it "growing together" for a reason. While this example is extreme, there's validity. I don't love so I wouldn't know how id handle it, though.
Captain Ahab
2/3/2011 3:33:00 PM
"hey a honey. . .would you mind eatting me out instead of deep mouth kissing my peanus?"
"ummmmmmmmm ahhhhhhhh"
"just throwing it out there. . .seeing how ya feel about that. . .hypothetically speaking of course."