a dating question 65 replies, 41257 views

Sandy Dickhands
8/17/2011 10:30:00 AM
What are your opinions on "casual dating", as in seeing multiple people at the same time vs. dating one person at a time? Personally, I cannot wrap my head around casual dating at all. I can't understand how anyone is ok with spreading their attention around to 2 or 3 or 5 people at a time. First of all it sounds tiring as hell. Second of all I don't think it's fair to anyone involved. How can anything have a chance of working if your energy is constantly splintered. Also, how are people ok with being on the other end of this? To know that someone is out with you tonight, you're both having a great time and then you ask to see them later that week and they can't because they'll be out with person C instead. Durrrrr. Furthermore, I also see this as an indication that the person is flakey and ultimately has no fucking clue what they're really looking for. /jameso
RyanSchwenksville
8/17/2011 10:35:00 AM
Tim E. Husk
8/17/2011 10:36:00 AM
I always viewed this as something made up by television.
Dianana
8/17/2011 10:37:00 AM
Riding multiple faces?
deadlift
8/17/2011 10:37:00 AM
tried it before and it's way too much work.
the cat
8/17/2011 11:03:00 AM
I tried this nonsense, people do it down here. It seems really forced and unnatural to me
Jess.
8/17/2011 11:04:00 AM
I have no issue with casual dating is a long as everyone is on the same page. Basically, don't lie about it, if you are non-exclusive, make sure that each party knows. I don't think you need to exclusively spend time with one person while you are getting to know them. I don't think you should necessarily be sleeping with multiple people at the same time, though.

That being said, every time I've done this, one of the guys would be mad that I was dating other people even though he was doing the same thing, so it was certainly tiring.
-Jeremy-
8/17/2011 11:08:00 AM
I wouldn't even have the energy to do this.
Dianana
8/17/2011 11:11:00 AM
I was dating a guy who didn't want to be my boyfriend but wasn't dating other people and didn't want me to. Then I started dating Wren.
Jess.
8/17/2011 11:19:00 AM
Originally posted by: Dianana

I was dating a guy who didn't want to be my boyfriend but wasn't dating other people and didn't want me to. Then I started dating Wren.

lol. well the issue was the guy did want to be my boyfriend, I just wasn't ready...and now he is my boyfriend.
John Barlow
8/17/2011 11:25:00 AM
Life is short. Fuck everyone you can.
Gatsby
8/17/2011 11:25:00 AM
Originally posted by: Sandy Dickhands

What are your opinions on "casual dating", as in seeing multiple people at the same time vs. dating one person at a time? Personally, I cannot wrap my head around casual dating at all. I can't understand how anyone is ok with spreading their attention around to 2 or 3 or 5 people at a time. First of all it sounds tiring as hell. Second of all I don't think it's fair to anyone involved. How can anything have a chance of working if your energy is constantly splintered. Also, how are people ok with being on the other end of this? To know that someone is out with you tonight, you're both having a great time and then you ask to see them later that week and they can't because they'll be out with person C instead. Durrrrr. Furthermore, I also see this as an indication that the person is flakey and ultimately has no fucking clue what they're really looking for. /jameso

What do you mean by "dating"? like non-sexual going out for dinner/movies once or twice a week? or sexual dinner/movies/sit on my face kinda dating? Cause if I was "dating"someone and it moved on to a sexual level I wouldn't be ok knowing that they were going out with other chicks and doing the same thing with them at any given time.
Dianana
8/17/2011 11:28:00 AM
he means sexual dinner.
Gatsby
8/17/2011 11:29:00 AM
well, then fuck that. I don't want sloppy seconds/thirds/fourths.
John Barlow
8/17/2011 11:30:00 AM
When it's appropriate, I like to incorporate my supper into sexual face riding. Smashing tie. Fancy a fuck?
InTheButtLikeWhat
8/17/2011 11:30:00 AM
Originally posted by: Brian Wilson

Life is short. Fuck everyone you can.

Tim E. Husk
8/17/2011 11:31:00 AM
If you are just into sleeping with multiple people skip buying them all dinner and get to it.
Sandy Dickhands
8/17/2011 11:32:00 AM
I don't even mean sexual. Just anything that is romantic/non-platonic. When did the word dating become interchangeable with filling someone's grand canyon? What is wrong with everyone these days?
Gatsby
8/17/2011 11:32:00 AM
Originally posted by: Brian Wilson

When it's appropriate, I like to incorporate my supper into sexual face riding. Smashing tie. Fancy a fuck?

well that's always appropriate.

Also, I'd like to add that it would be ok if I was fucking multiple dudes, but not if they were fucking multiple people also.
Gatsby
8/17/2011 11:33:00 AM
Originally posted by: Sandy Dickhands

I don't even mean sexual. Just anything that is romantic/non-platonic. When did the word dating become interchangeable with filling someone's grand canyon? What is wrong with everyone these days?


seee that's why I asked!
Tim E. Husk
8/17/2011 11:34:00 AM
Originally posted by: Sandy Dickhands

I don't even mean sexual. Just anything that is romantic/non-platonic. When did the word dating become interchangeable with filling someone's grand canyon? What is wrong with everyone these days?

I look at it like this:

If you are taking someone out to dinner because you like them and want to get to know them better, but can't decide if you like them enough to have any sort of (even slow, non-serious) relationship and still want to take someone else out to dinner for the same reasons, and you don't want to sleep with both of them while this is happening, what is going on while you decide?

Sounds like a lot of dinner. If that's dating, welp.
John Barlow
8/17/2011 11:35:00 AM
Alright. Everyone start fucking on 3.
Dianana
8/17/2011 11:36:00 AM
Date multiple people, see who takes you out to the best places, that person wins the vagina hug.
InTheButtLikeWhat
8/17/2011 11:38:00 AM
"dating" blows, i'm so glad i don't have to do that shit anymore.
Dianana
8/17/2011 11:38:00 AM
Date multiple people, the first guy that invites you on his face wins for that night, continue dating multiple people for free meals.
mandakatzz
8/17/2011 1:07:00 PM
Dated 3 guys at once all non sexual besides kissing. Would never do again, people say they are fine with it when they arent and get jealous.

Tried dating this one guy recently who told me he liked me a lot but couldn't date me cause I had gone out with his friend. Dating sucks. Why hang out with someone multiple times, cuddle and kiss than say sorry.